Pornograpy Addiction Support Group
P.A.S.G. division of the LDS Addiction Recovery Program
FAQ about ARP PROGRAM

What is the Church's Addiction Recovery
Program?   

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(ARP) acronym for Addiction Recovery Program and is for ALL addictions:
(PASG) acronym for Pornography Addiction Support Group and ONLY for sexual addictions.

 25% of all groups sponsored by the Church is a PASG group.

 In short the program is an Atonement Utilization Program:or in
 other words Repentance for dummies!

 

It is a 12-step program centered on our Savior,
Jesus Christ. Teaching how to utilize the
Atonement in behalf of those who suffer from
addictions and weaknesses.

 

With Alcoholics Anonymous s Permission,12-step
program and Support Group is Adapted to Book
of Mormon and Gospel Principals

Meetings are confidential
Only first names are ever used.
No referral is required
No charge, ever
Dress code is casual
Meeting are ongoing, and available almost every day
Meetings are held in LDS churches, and in prisons and jails

The program acts as a bridge or a link into full fellowship in
 the church.

PROGRAM OFFERS HOPE THROUGH THE HEALING POWER
OF THE ATONEMENT

We teach participants to pray, read their scriptures, attend regular church
meetings and come to Addiction Recovery Program meetings to overcome
the overwhelming feelings of guilt, disappointment, failure, shame,
and hopelessness.

A PROGRAM OF REPENTANCE

Each step teaches a principle relating to the process of repentance. For
example, Step 5 states "admitted to God, to ourselves and to another
human being the exact nature of our wrong. (This is usually the Bishop)

THIS PROGRAM IS A RESOURCE TO BISHOPS

Many times Bishops attend meetings with a ward member. This helps "break
the ice" until that person feels comfortable in the group. Inactive members feel
welcome in a comfortable, informal church setting. Bishops are being
overwhelmed by addictions, finally a place where one can find help for those
of our flocks who are in such need in their lives, a place that is free, ongoing,
Church ran, and help is available, almost daily.

OUR PARTICIPANTS INCLUDE ADDICTS, AND THEIR
FAMILY AND FRIENDS IN A SUPPORTIVE ENVIRONMENT

We see many types of compulsive addictive behaviors:including Drugs,Alcohol,
Workaholism,Gambling, Food, Pornography,Perfectionism,TV, Anger, Control
issues, Co-dependency, Smoking, Video games, Internet surfing, vulgar mouth,
Self sufficiency,breaking the Sabbath day, road rage and an endless list of
others. If you think you do not have any problems of any kind ,might we
suggest you work on your PRIDE!!!!!! This program is for everybody

Family and friends who are:

Co-dependents, Priesthood leaders, Others who come to support addicts.

MEETINGS ARE A SAFE PLACE

There is a non-judgmental and unconditional love shown to everyone that
attends. They are in a safe place to share honestly, thus bringing a spirit
healing that is so desperately needed. Anonymity is sacred, what is shared at
these meetings, is never spoken outside its doors. The Spirit is so strong at
each of these meetings.

A GREAT MISSIONARY OPPORTUNITY

A great place to utilize your ward missionary's, get them trained in the
program so they can help so many of Father's children who are struggling.

A great place to prepare a missionary couple for full time missionary service
( this calling is a part-time service missionary calling) live at home and only
serve 3 to 10 hours per week.

Recovered addicts who have gone through the program make some of the best
missionaries, they know the steps and have "been there". They do need to be
temple worthy to serve. Serving also cements their continued recovery.
Missionaries are always needed, so volunteer to your bishop.

It is ok to ask for this calling. Usually you can serve here and still keep your
present calling.

 

What is the History of the program?

 

About 1990 an organization called Heart t Heart, with permission from AA, formed a 12-step
program and support group, the program was adapted to Book of Mormon and gospel
principals. In 1999 LDS Family Services came to Heart t Heart and adopted their program
and their textbook “ He Did Deliver Me From Bondage. Part time service Missionaries were
called to be group leaders for the 12 step meetings. The ARP program was born. The next
milestone was in 2004 immediately after Pres Hinckley's talk in the Oct 04 conference on
pornography. A division was made for those suffering from sexual addictions the called it a
PARG group. I'm sure partly because of the shame and secrecy involved in sexual addictions
along with the sheer numbers of Latter-day Saints involved, merited its own venue.
In 2006 The Church came out with its own guide book. The material in part came from
addicts and Church leaders, therapists, and leaders from other 12 step groups. In 2007 the
program was introduced outside the US and the number of missionaries reached to about
1500. In 2008 the number of missionaries and facilitators serving in the program climbed to
over 2000, and the program is now more unified. LDS family services has made their
materials for training and scripts used ,uniform in all meetings.

 

 Who is in charge of this program?

LDS Family Services is where the church put this program under,
this is where you contact to find out where meetings are held, and
for the contact info of group leaders. NOTE: the program is ran
independent of the main Family Services Program. The group
leaders are not therapists, or councilors and do not do anything
but the 12 step program, there is never a charge for services. The
head of the ARP program is the program coordinator. The
Coordinator has the Stake Presidents and Bishops call Part-Time
service missionaries. These missionaries are to run the 12 step
meetings. They are set apart by their Bishop for this calling which
 is from 6 months to 2 1/2 years.

 

Where can I read about this program? Is it really a
legitimate auxiliary of the Church?

 

Pres Faust passed away before he was to give his conference talk, they did include it in the
November 07 Ensign at the back of the conference talks. The talk is called “The Power To
Change

Preach My Gospel page 189 instructing missionaries how to deal with addictions in converts:

July 2008 Ensign “Hope healing and dealing with addiction.”: www.ldsnewsroom.lds.org
archives under:”individuals with addictions find hope and healing”: Church news sept 1 2007
 “ Hope for Recovery”: www.desertsaintsmagazine.com/2006/09/01/addiction-and-recovery: http://www.meridianmagazine.com/ideas/060203addiction.html and many more Church
News, did a 7 part series special on addiction.

 Why have we not heard of it before?

 Confidentiality and anonymity, which are crucial anchors of the program are not helpful when
it comes to getting the word out. Many Bishops are unaware of this great resource. In many
places there is no program. If there is not a program do not despair. All that is needed to start
 a group is a willing Stake President. He only has to request a group to be formed. He fills out
 a request form and turns it in to his closest LDS family services. Then the Stake President
instructs a Bishop to call 2 people to run a group, and find a room for them in a chapel to
meet in. The missionary form is the standard church service missionary form, a missionary
must be temple worthy and be willing to serve about 10 hours a month. YES this is a
 volunteer calling; you do not have to wait to be called to serve. When a group is started
usually 2 missionaries are called one to be the group leader, the group leader must dress in
 Sunday clothes, and everyone else dresses casually. The other half of the team is a
facilitator. The facilitator does not have to be a missionary or have a temple recommend ,they
do need to have some sobriety and their Bishop has to sign off on it.

 What goes on in a meeting ?

All meetings are held in church building, usually away from other
meetings, and usually in a part of the building that is more private,
with its own entrance. Above all anonymity is crucial, it is important
that participants feel safe coming and that they won't be
recognized going into a meeting. Signs should indicate only that
this is a LDS Support meeting. There should be signs
where to go, at all entrances to the church. The dress is casual,
only first names are used. Even titles as Bishop and President are
not used in this setting, we are all equals. Even the missionaries go
by their first names. The chairs are all in a circle, or semi circle.
Interesting note. (Many participants do NOT attend their home ward
 or stake group, but go as far away as possible to avoid recognition).

The meeting starts by a welcome by the group leader and
introduction of themselves and the facilitator. Participants are
asked that cell phones be turned off. A volunteer is asked to say
the opening prayer, (non members X members and
dis-fellowshipped members may pray, this is not an "official
church meeting")

The mission statement is read. Any announcements and the
general format of the meeting is given to newcomers.
The 12 steps
are read by the group, each person reading a step, and then the
lesson is read everyone reading a paragraph, if someone does not
want to read they can just pass. The Lesson usually lasts 10 to12
minutes. The meeting is then turned over to the facilitator. He
conducts the sharing portion of the meeting. Each person is given
the opportunity to share. If someone does not want to share they
just state their name and say that they pass for now. After
everyone has had the chance to share, the meeting is opened up
for any one to share. The remaining time is used up; the meeting
should not go over time. Sharing may be about the lesson or about
anything going on in their life that might be of benefit. The Sharing
is a safe place to open up. No matter what is shared, profound or
not so profound, at the end of a persons sharing everyone says
thanks_______. Sharing is like a focused subject, testimony
meeting. No one is interrupted while sharing, no preaching is
allowed; everything said is in the "I" form and not the "you" form.

after sharing the group leader gives some closing thought and a
closing prayer is given.

What is the difference in an ARP meeting and a PASG
meeting?

The only difference between the two meetings is the fact that
everyone in a PASG group has a sexual addiction, or is a spouse,
friend, or family member of an addict. The format of the meeting is
the same. Also in 99% of the pasg groups are separated.
Brothers from the sisters meet at the same time but in different
rooms. I only know of one area in the whole program where most
of the pasg groups meet together, and are not separated. For the
most part Men meet separate from the sisters, and the spouses

and female addicts meet in another room. In some places there are

sisters only groups just for female addicts. In areas where the

program is thriving there are groups for, sister’s only problems,

not just for addictions, but for depression, grief, divorce and for

anything life throws at you, that you need the Savior for. There is

even an ARP group that is just for food addictions. In our area we

are trying to get a same gender attraction group started but we are

still in the planning and getting approval stage.

 

Where can I find a meeting and the guide book ?

Click on www.ARP.LDS.ORG

 What is the script used? (this script is very close but not
 “exact”)

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Welcome: Welcome to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
addiction recovery meeting. I am Elder/Sister _____. My companion
is _____, and we are serving as missionary group leaders.

Do we have anyone here for first time?      

Please turn off your cell phones, or at least put them on vibrate.

We have the following announcements      

would someone volunteer to offer an opening prayer?


Mission
Statement: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
addiction recovery meetings assist those who desire to recover from
addiction. We also welcome family and friends whose lives may be
affected by the addiction of another. We are a group of brothers and sisters
who share our experience, faith, and hope as we study and apply the
principles of the gospel as they correlate with the 12 steps of recovery.
 It is through sharing that we solve our common problems. Our meetings
 provide a safe place for honest sharing because we adhere to the
 principles of confidentiality and anonymity, and we use appropriate
language and behavior to invite the Spirit to be with us. As we practice
these 12 steps in our lives, we receive power through the Atonement of
Jesus Christ to overcome addiction and receive the full blessings of the
gospel. Family and friends who practice these same 12 steps will also
find hope and healing for themselves.”

Introduce the 12 Steps: We will now go around the room and read each
of the 12 steps found on page Roman numeral iv (4).  We invite each
person who is willing to read 1 step. It is perfectly acceptable to pass if
 you
prefer to listen only.

Introduce Step Study: Each week we focus on a different step. This week
we will read step ___ starting on page ___ from
A Guide to Addiction
Recovery and Healing
g. We will go around the room, and each person who
is willing may read 1 or 2 paragraphs. You may pass if you prefer to listen.
We have an extra copy of the
Guide for you to use in this meeting in case
you do not have one. During the reading listen for thoughts, feelings, and
experiences you have in common with those who have taken these steps.
Who would like to begin the reading?

Introduce Action Steps: These 12 steps are a program of action. As we
read the section called “Action Steps,” we learn about recovery and gospel
actions we can take to come unto Christ and receive power to
live in
recovery from addiction.

Before the meeting is turned over to the facilitator, please remember, that
the opinions that will be expressed here are those of the individual who
expressed them, and may not necessarily represent the program, Family
Services, The Church, or the person next to you. Even comments about the
counsel received from Bishops or other church leaders may not be relevant
to you.  We are all at different stages of recovery.  With that in mind we will
turn the meeting over to our facilitator.

Introduce Group Sharing:

For those of you who have joined us since the meeting began, we welcome
you. We will now begin the sharing portion of the meeting. Share about your
personal recovery experience as it relates to the tools of recovery, this
week’s step, or the step you are currently working on. Please focus your
sharing on the solution rather than the problem. Refrain from mentioning
graphic details about the practice of our addiction. Remember, cross talk,
which is interrupting or commenting directly to another participant, is not
appropriate. Also, it is perfectly acceptable to pass if you
prefer to listen only. Remember to speak in the( I) form and not the (you)
form,

Confidentiality and anonymity foster honesty and make this a safe place to
share. Therefore, “whom you see here, what you hear here, when you leave
here, let it stay here, in keeping with the principle of anonymity, we invite you
to introduce yourself by your first name only. We will now go around the
room now and introduce ourselves.

We will conclude the sharing portion five minutes before the end of the
meeting at _____ (state the time) for final thoughts from Elder/Sister.
The time is now yours to share your experience, faith, and hope. We invite
you to share for 3 to 5 minutes. I will give a signal if you have used your full
time for sharing.   I will start the sharing and when I am finished we will
proceed to my( left or right)

Close Group Sharing: Thank you for your participation.  We will now turn
the time back to Elder/Sister _____.

Missionary Sharing – 5 Minutes: I’m Elder/Sister _____. (Focus your
closing thoughts on the principles and tools of recovery and your testimony
of the Savior. Take no more than 5 minutes to share, and close the meeting
on time.)

Closing:   We recommend using the “Study and Understanding” and
“Action Steps” sections between meetings to build on what you’ve heard
and experienced in this meeting. Finally, we thank each of you for your
participation. Your presence here demonstrates your humility and faith and
inspires hope in everyone attending today.
Would someone please volunteer to offer the
closing prayer?

 

 

 

MY PERSONAL TESTIMONY"
I have been associated with the program for 8 years now. The program WORKS!
Because, it is based on the Atonement. I feel the Spirit so strong in each and every one
of these meetings, it is a witness to me that the Lord especially loves the broken hearted.
He truly leaves the 90 and 9 and goes after the one, or the group of ones who comprise
our groups. Those who come know that this is the right place for help. It is a place where
the Atonement is taught in such a way, that those who are in spiritual darkness can
behold the light again, and be able to feel the love of our Savior again, and the support
and love of those who have also been also been caught in the same snares of this
mortal world. The Atonement is taught step by step in a way that can unlock the
cleansing and healing power of the Atonement. Going to church alone will NOT cure
addictions; I am living proof of that. All my knowledge and decades in the church did not
prepare me for the clarity and insight I have since learned, by attending these meetings.
I had all the knowledge but did not know how to put that knowledge together to make
the Atonement real and personal in my own life to the degree I now have.

If you ask any one in the program they would tell you that this program should be part
of every Sunday school curriculum in the church. Everyone needs to know the
knowledge found in this program. The meetings provide a safe environment, here a
person can share and be completely honest without being judged or ridiculed or
shamed. Everyone there, sometimes even including the missionaries, share their
same weaknesses. It is nice to know that you are not alone in your weakness
, that you
are not uniquely broken, that others are going through the same trials as you are, and in
the same boat, who are struggling as you are. It is through sharing that we solve our common problems; there is no better place to learn
what works and what does not work than by hearing others--who are just like you--as they
share their lives with you. As you attend a meeting and are without hope, I promise you will
find it. Our meetings are full of Hope and Love.
 
This is a place where one can be truly honest with OTHERS about their problems, and with
THEMSELVES. Addicts are good about minimizing and making excuses for their
weaknesses. Many addicts are in DENIAL (Don't Even Notice I Am Lying). Our meetings
are a safe place where these weaknesses can be brought up and dealt with. It is in these
meetings where we practice true Christianity: We mourn with those who mourn and we
rejoice with those who are having success. Each of us in the group learns from the
successes and, yes, the failures of others. Many use the support group as an accountability
tool, knowing that they would have to confess to the group if or when they slipped. WE
ARE A FAMILY in these support groups. We pray for each other, and we miss those who
are absent.

Another reason for success is that some addictions, like the ones I work with, deal with
pornography and there is a lot of secrecy and shame that goes with this addiction. It grows
like a fungus in the dark and thrives, but when it is brought into the light it withers and dies.
We bring this addiction into the LIGHT in a safe place, because everyone else in the room
has the same problem. Addicts learn that the lies that Satan has been using on them are
the same lies he uses on everyone else, and once in the light, darkness flees. If the Lord has
saved one person from this affliction, AND HE HAS, He will save all, what He has done for
one, He does for all. The support group is not a replacement for church or going to the
bishop. In fact no one can go thru the steps without working with their bishop and attending
to the basics of reading, praying, writing, and attending church. The program is a
supplement of the above. I am grateful for this program and for what it has done for me.
I am so grateful to a church that is so caring for those of us who are lost that they provided
this program to help Father’s children.

Elder Foutz

All ARP programs are not all equal, the program is a
work in progress, and does have flaws, but it is the only
one our Church has sponsored and placed its stamp of
approval on!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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